I am often accused of being an over-committer, a keener, a person who can’t say NO, doing too much, not relaxing enough…
Yeah. You know what? I probably am.
I thrive in being busy. When things are slow I feel sluggish and unmotivated. It’s the push that keeps me going. Keeps me focused and moving forward. I have such a believer of living life to the fullest but lately that fullness has made me feel overwhelmed.
Sometimes, I take on too much. I hit these moments of realization but get stuck in the fact that I committed. To me, commitment and integrity are two massively important parts of my life.
So how do you find that balance?
Husband here. Ok, so here is the deal. Jenn has a huge problem as a human being; She is a human doing. Always something going on, filling blank spaces with lists, charts ,future plans, theme parties and possible colour combinations for duvets and accent walls. I don’t often wax poetic on the colour wheel or where our relationship could use refocusing, but I instead appreciate the quiet times. The times when the suns sets and makes that magic colour… the kids have a leaf fight, and you know you could block the attack, but they are 8 years old so you just eat it… you know the little things.
So it is my sole quest on this planet to slow Jenn down. I work on it constantly, and try to make sure that she takes the time to enjoy the day. Latest plan: I will consistantly make sure there are flowers on the table so as to ensure she can always stop and smell the roses. We often get to a point where Jenn is working on life, plus all the little things like timely billing and swimming lesson scheduling, and we boil over. Thats where I come in. I know that these things are necessary, I do. But we need to find a balance in the world, a cosmic shift that allows for Jenn to eat leaves and paint faces and realize all the crap we go through is so we can appreciate the little things. I am the champion of the little things, and I will always push for them to be remembered and known.
So we couldn’t do any more PTA. Jenn was a member of 2 councils, a board of directors, a daycare executive, a book club, and a variety of charitable choices/passion projects. So we have let a number of things go. This has freed us up for more leaf fights. To stop, reflect and taking the time to enjoy.
To embrace all the sweet small things in live.
And that… is a good thing.
More leaf fights (or in our case playing in the snow) is always a great thing. I am appreciative always of my partner in life who reminds me of it too. (And I remind him the dust bunnies can wait.)
Nerdguy and I have done the same thing this year. We both have a lot of mixed feelings over this – balancing the guilt of not working on the projects we care about with the delicious feeling of not being pulled in quite so many directions. But we made a deal, and we make each other stick to it, and we are much happier. Enjoy your leaf fights! Leaf fights are awesome.
I think that should be something that goes up on the wall hey? MORE leaf fights!
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